Do you already feel like a failure? (Ep. 5)

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Episode 5: Do you already feel like a failure? 

 

Two actions to avoid failing and/or feeling like you are failing:

 

  • Be aware of the expected obstacles

 

Obstacle 1: Unwillingness to Commit

  • This is one of the biggest challenges
  • This causes failure to follow through
  • This sets you up for failure before you even begin

 

“Failing to prepare is preparing to fail.” John Wooden 

 

Reflection Question: Do I have an unwillingness to commit already in 2021?  

 

Question: Why would someone take the time to set goals for their organization, if they were unwilling to commit to them? 

 

Answer:

  • Although you want to achieve your goals, they are not convenient… that’s why they are goals
  • If you are really committed to reaching your goals, you will do what you have to do, no matter what
  • We are more interested in reaching our goals, yet we are not willing to commit to reaching those goals. It’s not that we don’t want them. It’s that we don’t want to do the things to commit to getting those things done. 
  • As soon the going gets tough, we don’t get going. We give up?

 

Question: What are the pitfalls for a leader who is unwilling to commit to THEIR goals?

 

Answer: 

  • Leaders are so entrenched in what they are trying to do with their own personal goals that they forget about the bigger picture. 
  • The tough part about being a leader is that you are not just committed to your goals, you are committed to the goals of the people that follow you. 

 

Reflection Question 2: Am I really committed to reaching my goals in 2021?

 

Obstacle 2: Being afraid to step out of your comfort zone

  • We like doing what we are good at already
  • Leaders do the stuff that others won’t do

 

“You must be willing to do the things today others won’t do, in order to have the things tomorrow others won’t have.” Les Brown

 

Action point: Do something different.

  • If you are not getting the raise that you want at work, do something new.
  • If you’re not used to speaking up, speak up.
  • Take responsibility for your own actions.

 

The worst thing that you can do is to take no action.  You need to go against that conventional wisdom that the little voice in your head is telling you.

 

Wayne Gretzky once said, “You miss 100% of the shots that you do not take.” Make the decision today to give it another shot, to give it your best shot.

 

You are not in control of your circumstances but you are in control of your attitude and the actions you take. 

 

Wayne Gretzky was not only a great scorer, but also a great leader to his teammates.  He is the one who also said, “I skate to where the puck is going to be, not where it has been.” -Wayne Gretzky.

 

  1. Know how to respond to them

    

 Question: What do leaders need to learn about responding to the expected obstacles?

 

Answer: 

  1. Learn to be your own catalyst.
  • Nobody cares about you as much as you care about you. 
  • Motivation comes and goes.

 

“Successful people do all the things that unsuccessful people don’t want to do.” -Paul Michell

 

Reflection Question 3: Are you willing to work when you don’t want to work anymore?  

 

Tim Tebow Story: Took responsibility as the leader. Committed to work harder than everyone else. 

 

Action Point: Learn to build habits.

  • Read the book, Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, by Stephen Covey.
  • “To change ourselves effectively, we first had to change our perceptions.” – Unknown

 

  1. Believe you can do it.
  • Be a little bit unrealistic. Set your goals a little bit bigger then you will be able to accomplish on your own.
    • Don’t get this confused. I am not saying to put goals down that are TOTALLY unrealistic… but just enough to make you work for it

 

“’Most people overestimate what they can do in one year and underestimate what they can do in ten years.” -Bill Gates

 

Question: What if someone doesn’t know if they can do it and doesn’t have people in their life that believe in them? 

 

Answer: I have enough people who criticize me. I need more cheerleaders. Those are the people I bring into the process. 

 

  • Leaders don’t do anything alone.  Leaders need other people.

 

Action Point: Remove people in your life that are not the cheerleaders. Gently and lovingly put distance between yourself and other people that are not on your team. 

 

Reflection Question 4: Are you doing the things in life right now that are helping you to understand what it means to be the best you? Are you bringing those people along with you to help you get those things done?

 

What is your team? How does it look? What are you doing to better that team on a daily basis?

 

Mo’s Final Thoughts:

If you are already asking, “Am I a failure?”, the answer to that is, “No! Be ready for the obstacles and be ready to respond to them appropriately. We will get through this journey together. You are not failing. You are doing great. Just take the next step. 

 

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Published by MO

Born and raised in So Cal, MO has always felt a need to pour into the lives of others. At a young age he realized both his speaking and leadership gifts. Involvement in school student government gave him his first taste of leadership, and that was all he needed. Right out of high school, he took an intern position under his mentor of three years, and he eventually became a youth pastor. MO attended Azusa Pacific University and received a B.A. in Christian Ministries and Biblical Studies, as well as a Business Marketing Minor. He continued his education at Fuller Theological Seminary and attained a Master of Divinity degree with an emphasis in Family Pastoral Care and Counseling; he received his Doctor of Management in Organizational Leadership from University of Phoenix School of Advanced Studies. Currently MO serves in various ministries and consults both secular and religious institutions in leadership issues. He is Chaplain at Methodist Hospital in Arcadia as well as Chaplain in the US Army. MO is an author, professor, and competitive swim coach. He speaks at youth events and conferences around the nation and internationally. His goal is to add value to others daily.

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